“I miss it” answers a former student to an invitation that I sent him for mail. The phrase is circling in my head all over the morning. I know it is a trendy way that is used to look good, but I would prefer that they tell me “I can’t” “I don’t want to”, “I am not interested in a little”, because if there were actually any kind of loss in not going to a very desired event, one would do whatever it was to go or at least write some songs or regrets of a minimum of 1000 words, more or less worthy number of pain that such deprivation implies it, “don’t you lose it? It sounds so liar and youth wannabe that moves rabies. It is the equivalent of the gesture of shaking a migue of the sleeve or frightening an insect that bothers. On the other hand, one understands that it has been degraded to that set of obstacles in the life of someone with too many things to do to answer a mail seriously. Two things come to mind now that I reflect on the phrase. First, that the first verses of Elizabeth Bishop’s poem would have been the perfect answer to that girl. It would be like this: “Do not worry (and here Elizabeth enters) the art of losing is easily dominated/ so many things seem determined to get lost/ that their loss is no disaster, carefully, etc. etc.” Second, that someone should write a label manual for this type of issues, such as those that became popular during the twentie Education in these issues that still work today. In the chapter on letters and schemes, it gives details on how to correctly reject an invitation. “Acceptings and rejections should always be written but it is never good to resort to the vulgarity of a form or formula. There is nothing worse than forever ruining your social success by announcing that you have so many invitations that you are forced to use a phrase made to gain some time in the writing of your rejections.” Another good answer to that email, it seems to me, but who has time to educate your correspondents? Of course Emily also gives advice on how to write a good letter to decline an invitation. For example: “Miss X laments extremely that a previous commitment prevents her from accepting the invitation of the lady and”. Yes, I know: it is another way of saying “I miss it.” But I am talking about that. I would be willing to change the day and time of my event if someone answered me that way (especially, using the third person). Of course, according to Emily, I would become a social outcome, because it is already known that the true ladies do not care who is coming and who is not and continues, writing with dedication and property the letters that it is worth answering.
